#434 You get to choose

Your best writing can only happen when you’re writing.

Your running PR can only happen when you’re running.

And your most cherished moments with friends can only happen when you’re with your friends.

You can try to time life.

But the only foolproof way to live your best moments do is by showing up in the moment.

When everything is urgent, how do we know what to do first?

One solution is adding more nuance:

What’s the most urgent?

What’s the most important?

Breathing is urgent.

A crying child is urgent.

A toilet visit can be urgent.

Sending that email out tonight right before bed instead of tomorrow, maybe not so much?

Here’s the important question:

If you’re going to prioritize the urgent matters anyway, why stress yourself out by calling everything urgent in the first place?

Making everything urgent devalues truly urgent matters.

Because when everything is urgent, nothing is urgent anymore.

Only when you stop worrying about whether you’re a good writer do you have a shot at being a writer.

Only when you stop worrying about whether you’re a good friend, you have a shot at having true friendship.

Only when the worries stop, does the potential show up.