#419 What would happen if you don’t rush?

Writing isn’t hard. Writing every day is – until it isn’t anymore.

That’s when writing becomes hard.

Build the habit, then you get a shot at building the skill.

Am I doing this because of who I want to be? Or in spite of who I want to be?

Do I act a certain way automatically?

Who or what made me believe it’s a necessity?

Do I even know who I want to be?

Questions that lead to intentional living.

You can be an aspiring writer without writing.

You can be a former writer without writing.

But you can only call yourself a writer today when you have proof that you’re currently writing.

Wanting to improve certain areas in your life is powerful.

But that improvement gap comes with a pressure trap.

Because if you believe you’re in control of your actions, the moments you accidentally fall back into old patterns become extra frustrating.

When your self-worth becomes attached to your behavior, every action becomes a judgment of character.

And so the pressure mounts.

Missing one workout means you’re not worthy of running a marathon.

Missing one day of writing means you’ll never be a writer.

Making one communication mistake, making someone angry, means you’re a terrible person.

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To make that pressure bearable, build self-trust (for example, through Tiny Trust Builders).

Trust that you can run a marathon, even if you miss a workout.

Trust that you can be a writer, even if you miss one day of writing.

Trust that you can be a good person, even if you’ve made mistakes or upset some people.

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Notice the improvement gap between where you are and where you want to go.

Let the majority of your actions be a vote for the person you want to be.

Focus on elastic discipline, not hardliner habits.

Do all that, and you’ll feel more fulfilled and free.