#159 What unintentional living looks like

ByLukas
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Unintentional living and identity building look like this:

  1. Actions are inspired by pain and pleasure.
  2. Repeated pain and pleasure lead to repeated actions.
  3. Repeated actions lead to habits.
  4. Habits shape your identity.

“Life made me who I am, and I can’t do anything about it.”

Intentional living and identity building look like this:

  1. Who do I want to be? What’s my desired identity?
  2. Which habits that would turn me into that person do I not have in place right now?
  3. Which repeated actions that would build that habit am I not currently taking?
  4. Which reactions to pain and pleasure triggers in my life can I change? Which pain and pleasure triggers can I ban out of my life completely?

“While the past has shaped me, the way I choose to live my life today, tomorrow, and every day after, will determine who I am.”

You’re living anyway. Your actions are votes for an identity anyway. So you might as well do it intentionally.

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