#51 Reversing the causal arrow

ByLukas
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Who is the person who has already done (or is already doing) what you want to do?

What does their life look like?

Where are they?

What do they say, think feel?

What do they focus on?

Who did they have to become?

What would life be like if YOU have already done (or are already doing) what you want to do?

It’s hard to achieve change if you’re stuck in your current identity (where you haven’t achieved that change yet).

Using your imagination to reverse the causal arrow can help you get out of that rut.

First imagine what it feels like to have already achieved (or to be already doing) something.

Then choose your present actions according to that feeling and identity.

Let every action you take help you become more of who you want to be.

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#232 You’ll know when it’s time

ByLukas

First, you write. Then you become a writer.

First, you run. Then you become a runner.

First, you set boundaries. Then you become good at setting boundaries.

But before all that comes the decision to write. To run. To set boundaries.

Because you’re dissatisfied with the past and say never again.

Because you’re filled with excitement about a future vision.

Because you know you’re ready to make the change.

You’ll know when it’s time, my friend.

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#84 Long-term Side Effects of Procrastinating

ByLukas

I can choose to procrastinate on a project for weeks – then finish it all in one go, right before the deadline.

In absolute terms, I might have been very efficient with my time – but the time I saved, I spent frustrated with myself.

The long-term effect on my self-image: I’m a procrastinator.

What if I work a little bit on a project every single day – and have it finished well before the deadline?

I might spend more time in total – but every day, every moment spent makes me feel good about myself.

The long-term effect on my self-image: I cultivate an identity of discipline and consistency. I do what I believe to be good for me. I build character. Taking small daily actions towards a goal becomes part of my identity.

What’s more: I avoid the frustration and resentment that comes with procrastination (=not doing what I know I should be doing), and feel good about myself instead.

Long-term, the benefits of small daily actions always outweigh huge last-minute efforts.

#153 When most of the learning is lost on us.

ByLukas

Playing the guitar hasn’t taught me to move my hands and fingers across strings. It has taught me to persevere whenever I’m failing over and over again until suddenly, it all clicks and the words, music, or movements flow.

Yoga hasn’t taught me to put my body in awkward poses. It has taught me to be aware of – and release – the tension in my body whenever I sit, walk, stand, and run.

Taking cold showers hasn’t taught me to withstand cold water. It has taught me to know to relax whenever my body tenses up in stress and my heart starts racing.

Learning a foreign language hasn’t taught me to say the same things with different words. It has taught me that there are different ways of perceiving the wordless world around me, and expressing what I feel inside.

When we isolate insights, most of the learning is lost on us.

Learn thematically. Ask yourself, “Where else does this apply?”

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#58 Pre-verbal

ByLukas

There used to be a time when you didn’t have words for your feelings. You just felt them.

You didn’t have words to say that your parents are your parents. You just knew it.

You didn’t have words for the sounds other humans made. Like singing birds, a buzzing bumblebee, or a rolling thunder, it was all just vibrating air.

What was your experience of reality like before words started categorizing, abstracting and limiting what you could see, hear, touch and feel?

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#263 Stop, even if you could do more

ByLukas

Ernest Hemingway allegedly stopped his writing sessions in the middle of a sentence so he knew how to start his next session. He stopped writing, even if he could do more.

Julia Cameron teaches to write precisely three pages of stream-of-consciousness journaling a day. Stop journaling, even if you could do more.

I’ve gotten better results studying foreign languages 20 minutes a day for several months than rushing into a new language and studying it for 3 hours a day, then crashing and burning. I stop myself from learning, even if I could do more.

Because burnout and overindulgence stifle progress, and in the long run, moderation leads to more.

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