#147 Purposeful Passion vs Compulsive Addiction

ByLukas
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Working on your business so hard you neglect your health – and end up in bed with a burnout.

Being so absorbed with selflessly helping others you forget to set boundaries – and end up drained and resentful.

Being so focused on the practice your neglect your friends and family – and you end up lonely.

The line between purposeful passion and compulsive addiction is thin.

This is where trust building comes in.

Building trust in your intentions – so you verify that your actions benefit you and your environment.

Building trust in your self-awareness – so you notice when you cross over in compulsive obsession space, and pull yourself back into purposeful passion territory.

Building trust in the people around you – so you listen to them when they see you’re slipping, and you let them help you get back on the right path.

Trust is a beacon of light, keeping you on track.

What will you do today to protect and fuel it?

Tiny Trust Builders.

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    If I tell myself I’m going to post one long blog post every week, I’ll find a million reasons not to write for the first six days until I have no choice but to write.

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    #216 Outward Proof of Inner Victories

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    Sometimes I ask myself if you are asking yourself why I write you a short note every day, my friend.

    Maybe I’m giving myself too much credit, and you’ve never asked yourself that question.

    But I will answer it anyway, so let’s pretend you have.

    Here’s the socially acceptable answer: for more than 200 days, I’ve been writing you a short note every day to remind you to make intelligent decisions about your life and who you want to be.

    But as so often with us humans, the honest answer is more self-centered: I write you a short note every day to remind myself to make intelligent decisions about my life and who I want to be.

    The fact that some insights are helpful to you is a nice bonus. But I would also write them if you have yet to read a single one of these insights.

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    A battle against frustration, giving up, limiting beliefs, and a cage of social conditioning from which it’s hard to break free.

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    Yes, every note I write to you, my friend, is outward proof of a tiny inner victory, taking tiny steps towards more self-trust and fulfillment.

    You may tell me I don’t have anything to prove to anyone, especially not myself.

    And you may be right.

    But I also know that we all have our battles to fight.

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    What we think we can do or not.

    What we believe is possible for us or not.

    What we desire.

    Who we can be.

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    Whatever your current perspective, it’s defective. Or at least incomplete.

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    #177 Doing, then believing

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