#147 Purposeful Passion vs Compulsive Addiction

ByLukas
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Working on your business so hard you neglect your health – and end up in bed with a burnout.

Being so absorbed with selflessly helping others you forget to set boundaries – and end up drained and resentful.

Being so focused on the practice your neglect your friends and family – and you end up lonely.

The line between purposeful passion and compulsive addiction is thin.

This is where trust building comes in.

Building trust in your intentions – so you verify that your actions benefit you and your environment.

Building trust in your self-awareness – so you notice when you cross over in compulsive obsession space, and pull yourself back into purposeful passion territory.

Building trust in the people around you – so you listen to them when they see you’re slipping, and you let them help you get back on the right path.

Trust is a beacon of light, keeping you on track.

What will you do today to protect and fuel it?

Tiny Trust Builders.

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