#207 Overgeneralization vs Undergeneralization

ByLukas
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Overgeneralization: I failed to stick to a new habit once, so I’ll always give up.

Undergeneralization: Even though I’ve been writing consistently for months, I’m still expecting the day I’ll finally give up again.

Both are manifestations of self-sabotage and perpetuations of a negative self-image.

The only way out: don’t focus on habits, focus on Tiny Trust Builders.

Let your actions be a vote for who you want to be.

Let your actions overrule your thoughts.

Let your actions change your identity.

One day at a time.

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