#240 It’s not about you. It’s not about me.

ByLukas

Most people are kind at heart and would be happy to help you – and other people – out all the time if only, you know, just like you, they didn’t have a life of their own full of obligations, dreams, passions, and worries. In other words, a life that doesn’t entirely revolve around being at your service.

I don’t know if that always holds for everyone, my friend. And it’s not a free pass for selfishness or treating others poorly.

But I do like to believe it’s mainly a mental bandwidth challenge and that deep down, people always want to help.

Because it makes me more understanding and empathetic. For other people’s behavior and my own.

After all, it’s not about you. It’s not about me. It’s about us all.

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