#20 I’ve never tried that before, so…

I made an account on Instagram to stay in touch with friends abroad. Now I habitually spend hours a day scrolling through Instagram feeds. Is this a purposeful pursuit?

I started journaling to clear my head. Now I habitually write and publish insights every day. Is this a purposeful pursuit?

Good intentions and purposeful actions inevitably turn into a habit, and that can be a good or a bad thing.

Constantly questioning our actions leads to paralysis.

But once in a while, gaining presence and reaffirming your intentions can be enough to put you back on track.

Opportunities often stare us in the face in our daily interactions, routines, and familiar environments – and that guise of the ordinary makes them invisible.

After all, seeing the value in something that comes so easily to you is hard.

So it takes an outsider to point it out.

What skill are you taking for granted even though it’s really pretty cool?

What comes naturally to you but is hard for others to do?

Which problems can you solve effortlessly? If you solve them for others, how would that set them free?

Habit hardliner. Epicurean. Ruthless achiever. Compassionate pushover.

I identify with all of the above, my friend. And even though they can all be positive, I’m pretty good at letting those qualities shine in the wrong situations.

The habit hardliner over-disciplining themselves and those around them.

The epicurean making indulgent food decisions every day.

The ruthless achiever neglecting their family.

The compassionate guy being a pushover in business negotiations.

So more out of necessity than ambition, I started asking myself: Who’s in charge right now?

Are they the adequate identity to be in charge in whatever situation you’re in?

It’s insightful. Not always fun. But insightful.

And as you know by now, I like to share insights with you, my friend. Because who knows, maybe one day, one of these insights will be enlightening to you, too?

So I invite you to give it a try.

Right here, right now: who’s in charge?

Maybe you’ve let some of your qualities shine in the wrong situations too.