#31 Ignore, then highlight more

ByLukas
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A daily insight from Tony Robbins:

Wherever focus goes, energy flows.

Tony Robbins, https://www.tonyrobbins.com/career-business/where-focus-goes-energy-flows/

We’re always ignoring and highlighting parts of our experience to make sense of the world – and it determines the way we feel.

To feel bad, you (temporarily) have to ignore all the events and things you consider positive.

To feel good, you (temporarily) have to ignore events and circumstances that can be challenging.

It all depends on context.

Sometimes, just to function, it’s necessary to ignore.

Sometimes you’re better off highlighting a bit more.

The big challenge: most of the time, we’re not aware of where our focus goes – so we let old habits and patterns decide how we feel – even if they don’t serve us at all.

Here’s an exercise I found useful: Tomorrow, focus on something that’s important for you once an hour (a post-it on your desk or a reminder on your phone can be useful). That way, it remains top of mind (and your energy will flow toward it).

Every hour, also take a moment to become aware of what you’re deleting from your experience, and what you’re highlighting.

  • What am I trying to do today?
  • What am I trying to do right now?
  • What’s important to me?
  • What do I want to focus on… what do I intentionally ignore?

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