#262 How to feel more fulfillment right now

ByLukas
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Fulfillment doesn’t come from closing the gap between wanting and having.

It comes from closing the gap between wanting and doing.

Want to write a book? Then write every day – even if you don’t have the book yet.

Want to start a successful business? Then start the business – even if you’re not successful yet.

Want to run a marathon? Then run every day – even if you haven’t run a marathon yet.

After all, you might never close the gap between wanting and having.

But the gap between wanting and doing, you can close right this very moment.

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#329 The journey to overcoming self-doubt

ByLukas

My journey to overcoming self-doubt as a writer:

  • I write every day, even when I didn’t feel inspired.
  • I publish imperfect work every day, and saw nothing bad happened.
  • I publish frequently to reduce the “burden of quality” on each piece (if I publish every day, it doesn’t matter if some posts don’t do so well, because I’ll post again tomorrow anyway.

In short: write and publish to overcome the fear of writing and publishing. Yes, it can be as simple as that.

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#295 When dreaming is enough

ByLukas

Do you really want to write a book? Or do you actually want to dream about writing a book?

Do you really want to drop everything and move to a sea-side town? Or do you want to dream about dropping everything and move to a sea-side town?

Both are fine. Both can be fulfilling, because often, having a dream is enough.

But both are not the same.

Only you will know if it’s the dream that makes you happy, or the action you want to take.

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#15 Being intentional about the questions you ask yourself

ByLukas

What you focus on right now, in the present moment, strongly affects your state. Focus on problems, you start worrying. Focus on a pleasant prospect, you start dreaming.

To manage state by directing focus, you must be intentional about the type of questions you ask to evaluate your experiences in life because whatever questions you ask yourself (and you DO ask yourself evaluating questions all the time, consciously or subconsciously), your brain is constantly coming up with answers for these questions.

The answers can be accurate or not; that doesn’t matter to your brain. It’ll justify and find answers, reasons, and connections for anything you ask… and through those answers, give meaning to anything that happens to you (and interpret it as painful or pleasurable).

How to be intentional about the questions you ask yourself:

  1. Eliminate limiting, “endless loop questions” that contain self-defeating presuppositions (like “Why does this always happen to me? Why am I always late? Why do I always give up? Why do I always hurt the people around me?). They’re dangerous because they force your mind to come up with answers: fake or real reasons that justify and perpetuate unhealthy behavior.
  2. Ask yourself empowering questions that challenge your mind to come up with empowering solutions, justifications, reasons:
    1. Empowering presuppositions: Why do I always arrive in time? Why do I always stick to the goals I set for myself? Why am I always kind to myself and others around me?
    2. Questions like “How can I be as helpful as possible? How can I make sure this is going to be a fulfilling, amazing day?”
    3. Questions like “What would the version of me I want to be do or say in this situation?”

#340 This is all you have to do today

ByLukas

You may want to be a published, acclaimed author, or an online writer with a massive audience. But today, all you have to do is write.

You may want to be the best marathon runner in your country. But today, all you have to do is go for one run.

Whatever lofty vision you have for yourself, today, all you have to do is take one tiny step, one Tiny Trust Builder moving you closer to the person you want to be.

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