#166 It’s not about goals, it’s about the questions they raise

ByLukas
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“If successful and unsuccessful people share the same goals, then the goal cannot be what differentiates the winners from the losers.”

https://jamesclear.com/goals-systems

It’s not about having goals. It’s about the follow-up questions goals raise.

“Will pursuing this goal be good for me? Physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially?”

“Is there any part of myself, my environment, and the people I care about that will suffer if I pursue this goal?”

“Who will I have become when I have achieved this goal?”

“Who do I need to be today to achieve this goal?”

“Which actions can I take today that bring me closer to achieving a goal?”

Repeated actions will overrule your thoughts. Repeated actions will change your identity. Better choose your goals and your actions intentionally.

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