#77 Do, Then Believe

If you know what you want to say but you can’t find the words yet, write without thinking about the words.

Write while thinking about the feeling.

Allow yourself to feel it first.

Feel it fully, then write the words.

Feel it fully, let stream-of-consciousness words come out..

Feel it fully, then start sculpting away.

Keep feeling it, and keep writing about it. Every day. Because sooner or later, feeling the words words will reveal what you want to say.

Wanting to improve certain areas in your life is powerful.

But that improvement gap comes with a pressure trap.

Because if you believe you’re in control of your actions, the moments you accidentally fall back into old patterns become extra frustrating.

When your self-worth becomes attached to your behavior, every action becomes a judgment of character.

And so the pressure mounts.

Missing one workout means you’re not worthy of running a marathon.

Missing one day of writing means you’ll never be a writer.

Making one communication mistake, making someone angry, means you’re a terrible person.

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To make that pressure bearable, build self-trust (for example, through Tiny Trust Builders).

Trust that you can run a marathon, even if you miss a workout.

Trust that you can be a writer, even if you miss one day of writing.

Trust that you can be a good person, even if you’ve made mistakes or upset some people.

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Notice the improvement gap between where you are and where you want to go.

Let the majority of your actions be a vote for the person you want to be.

Focus on elastic discipline, not hardliner habits.

Do all that, and you’ll feel more fulfilled and free.

It’s not just about wanting to be good at writing.

It’s about believing you’re a consistent writer.

And consistent writers write consistently…

And people who write consistently eventually become good at writing.

When you choose the right identity, everything falls into place.