#484 Comfortable in uncomfortable misconceptions

ByLukas

Even when the cure is available, we never let our body heal, because what would we do if we couldn’t complain about our ailments anymore?

Even when true love presents itself, we push it away, because what would we do if we can’t complain about partners leaving us anymore?

Even when friends and family show support, we don’t allow it, because what would we do if we can’t say anymore that everyone is out to screw us over?

Would we rather stay stubborn? Would we rather stay comfortable in our uncomfortable misconceptions?

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    But you’ll have to execute the plan in a variety of situations, including harsh conditions.

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    #72 Contrast

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    Without sadness, how do I know I’m happy?

    Without happiness, how do I know I’m sad?

    Without anger, how do I know I’m grateful?

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    Without pain, how do I know what pleasure feels like?

    Without pleasure, how do I know I’m in pain?

    Without bad moments, how can I appreciate the good ones?

    Without good moments, what gets me through the bad ones?

    Contrast.

  • #438 Whatever happens

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    It rains – you keep breathing.

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    You win – you keep breathing.

    You lose – you keep breathing.

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    Memory isn’t an objective account of the past – and that’s not its purpose either.

    Memory stores the lessons we extract from life experience. And to do so, it modifies, adds, subtracts, highlights, and hides.

    Hot soup burns my tongue – next time, I’ll remember the pain, but not if it was tomato soup or chicken soup. And I’ll remember to wait a couple of minutes before having the first spoon.

    Experience lived. Irrelevant info deleted. Lesson learned. Memory created.

    My country gets invaded – and that causes so much pain, I won’t just deliver an objective account of what happened: I’ll make sure to tell everyone who the evil guys are too.

    Experience lived. Story modified. Lesson learned. Memory created.

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