Daily Insight

With how (online) education and teaching are done nowadays, most people give up long before they get real results. Let’s fix that with this counterintuitive 3-step approach to skill-building: 👇

1️⃣ Step 1: Intent Builder.

Before you start, you must light a fire under yourself.

Why is this important to you?

What do you stand to gain?

Also (especially), what do you stand to lose?

(❗️I guarantee that at some point, you’ll forget what you’re doing it all for. So make your Intent strong and remind yourself every day; otherwise, you’ll always let life get in the way.)

2️⃣ Step 2: Trust Builder.

In the first 14-21 days, there’s only one thing that matters:

Can you prove to yourself that your Intent is strong enough to show up and take action daily?

Or are you derailed by the slightest setback or the lack of quick results?

Most people don’t have that trust in themselves yet. So you must build it up by taking small, daily actions completely decoupled from “quick wins” (I call them Tiny Trust Builders).

This is counterintuitive because people crave instant results, which means most course creators try to build them in their programs.

But the harsh truth is, only when you can show up without getting instant results are you ready to get real results.

3️⃣ Step 3: Skill Builder.

Once you’ve built the trust that you’ll show up, you can focus on skills, progress, and results. Here are two valuable mechanisms that take you from Trust-Building to Skill-Building:

👉 Make things a little harder every day or week
👉 Implement feedback loops: ask for coach feedback, talk about what you’re doing, show your work,…

Bottom line:

Learning something new is easier if you’re already in the habit of showing up every day.

It’s also easier to get through a bad day if you’re already in the habit of showing up every day – after all, you know that tomorrow, you’ll be there to take action again.

Today, you’ll force yourself to chase fulfilment, not instant pleasure.

Because when you start getting the taste what’s on the other side of your avoidance…

Soon enough you won’t need brute force anymore.

The more frequent and the less intrusive the habit, the easier it is to stick to.

Commit to writing for an hour once week? You’ll find a million reasons to procrastinate until the very last moment, on Sunday night, to write.

Commit to writing for 5 minutes once a day? The timeline is so short, there are no more excuses.

Make it doable. Make it frequent. And suddenly every habit is within reach.

You don’t need a better system, a habit, or even motivation to write today day.

If deep down you now you want to be a writer, you just need to show up and write today.

If you do that often enough, the habit, the system, and the motivation will come.

Your best writing can only happen when you’re writing.

Your running PR can only happen when you’re running.

And your most cherished moments with friends can only happen when you’re with your friends.

You can try to time life.

But the only foolproof way to live your best moments do is by showing up in the moment.

You usually make a plan in a moment of motivation and clear thinking, where everything seems possible.

But you’ll have to execute the plan in a variety of situations, including harsh conditions.

Remember this: difficult moments pass, just like easy moments.

Every moment passes, but your plans and dreams will still be there.

Don’t negotiate yourself out of your dreams based on a difficult moment.

Most people are happy to start something new and experience “quick wins” when motivation is still high.

Yet the moment they stop seeing results, motivation dwindles.

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If you can show me you can show up every day…

Even when you don’t see any progress…

Just because it’s important to you…

That’s why I know you’re truly ready to get the results you’ve always wanted.

If you made a plan to write every day, write today.

Don’t think. Write.

Because the decision has already been made.

And now is not the time to negotiate.

If you don’t make a conscious choice to do something new, the choice will be made for you: you’ll stick with the default behavior you were doing before.

Your job is to stick to your conscious choices for long enough so they can become the new default behavior.

There’s nothing wrong with chasing quick wins, as long as you define them well.

Because the first quick wins are usually internal and invisible.

Only when you’ve won some battles against the inner critic who wants you to give up do the external quick wins kick in.

And that’s how it’s supposed to be.