#26 Becoming less blind to what’s already here

ByLukas
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I write about the same topics over and over again, with slightly different words.

I listen to people explaining the same topics over and over again, with a slightly different interpretation.

I practice the same breathing exercises every day, becoming aware of changes so subtle it’s hard to believe they make any difference.

While all that energy spent on what seems like “repeating” and “reviewing” might seem like a waste of time, the constant revisiting of things we already know is how I grow.

Because with every repetition I’m discovering a new part of the same insight.

A new nuance that in itself might seem insignificant, but added to my personal experience, insights, understanding, might make all the difference.

And with every new insight, I become a little less blind to what’s already here.

In the process, I have to accept that the perfect words might never come.

The perfect explanation might never come.

The perfect execution of a skill might never happen.

But if I stay the course, my understanding of what matters to me in life will always keep growing.

At some point, through all the practicing, learning, reading, writing, I might stumble upon a groundbreaking insight.

Or maybe it never happens.

It doesn’t matter. I feel fulfilled regardless… As long as I keep sculpting away, day by day.

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    #24 Put your actions where your mouth is

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    Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.

    https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1/june-4-2020

    Writing every day reaffirms my “I’m a writer” identity.

    Sitting on the couch every day reaffirms my “I’m a couch potato” identity.

    As a consequence: when you change your actions and your identity starts shifting to align with those actions.

    And that’s how we get out of a rut.

    (The opposite isn’t always true: changing your thoughts without changing your actions will rarely shift your identity. I can think of being a writer as much as I want, if I never put any words on paper, I’m not a writer. That’s one of the principle of cognitive dissonance: Actions overrule Thoughts.)

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    1. First, you decide who you want to be (and what your new identity looks like).
      “I want to be a yogi: someone who regularly practices yoga and takes care of his mind and body.”
    2. Second you get clear on what that would look like in your daily life: which actions you’ll take that are different from the ones you’re taking right now.
      “Instead of watching TV before, my “yogi identity” would do a daily yoga session.
    3. Third, you gain enough leverage over yourself to go against your current habits, and take those different action for a prolonged period of time.
      This is where most resistance comes up, because my old “couch potato identity” is fighting my “yogi” identity — and through my past actions, the couch potato has received WAY more votes than the yogi.
      So you need perseverance at this stage. Remember, every time you take those new actions, you’re voting for your new identity and new habits are taking roots.
    4. At some point, you reach a tipping point productivity experts call “habit escape velocity“: you now have so much momentum that you’re out of the sphere of influence of your old habits, and your new habits (and new identity) can take root.

    Which begs the question…

    Where are you saying you want to be a certain way, but you’re voting for something else through your daily actions?

    Lukas Van Vyve

    Put your money (or your actions) where your mouth is.

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    #172 The pursuit of failure

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    Excellence is an outcome: a result of focused daily actions.

    And one of the fastest ways to excellence is the pursuit of failure.

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    Did I write nonsense today? Did I understand why I was writing nonsense? Have I learned something from writing that nonsense that will help me write something less nonsensical tomorrow?

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    It’s easy to say you want to be a writer when you never really put yourself out there to prove it.

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    #261 A simple way to train your intuition

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    Either you’re right and you saved time.

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    If it turns out bad, learn and change.

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    You already know how to do this.

2 Comments

  1. You got to love repetition, don’t we all? But how do you make sure you don’t overlook your own blind spots/preconceived conceptions?
    Just a thought from a friend

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