#479 Fighting vs Facing a Fear
Fighting a fear makes it fester.
Facing a fear makes it disappear.
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#325 Some things take time
ByLukasSome things happen so fast, they catch you by surprise.
Bust most things take time.
And things taking time is perfectly fine.
#477 Maybe it’s already enough
ByLukasYou could always do more of something.
But maybe you don’t have to.
Maybe what you’re doing is already enough.
Maybe you’re already enough.
And everything else is extra.
#461 First, you act. Then your beliefs react.
ByLukasWhen you write every day, you’ll start believing you can write every day.
When you run every day, you’ll start believing you can run every day.
Therefore, you don’t need to believe in your capabilities before taking action.
First, you act. Then your beliefs react.
#430 You are not your emotions
ByLukasYour anger is real. But you are not your anger.
Your worries are real. But that doesn’t mean it’s rooted in reality.
You aren’t scared. You feel scared.
You are not your emotions. Emotions are not your identity.
#5 How did I ever let that stop me?
ByLukasThe other day you asked about my favorite words.
But what I really want to write about is my favorite questions.
Because as much as words can spark imagination, questions are what steer the mind – to good places or bad.
Consider this one:
“Why do I always give up when I start a new habit?“
This presupposes that I always give up and will ask my brain to come up with reasons (and excuses) to justify and perpetuate that behavior.
- Why do I always get frustrated when something doesn’t go my way?
- Why do I always wait until the last minute to start on a project, so I get stressed and barely meet the deadline?
- Why do I always give up when I start writing and publishing daily?
And off I go, finding excuses for behavior, thus perpetuation.
“Look at all the reasons I found for behaving this way. I may not like it, but I guess this is who I am.”
Why would you send your mind there… If you could also ask yourself a question like:
“What would it feel like if I were already writing and publishing every day?”
How would I feel about myself…
How would I look at myself?
What would I say, what would I create… How would I act?
Which obstacles would I have conquered?
Which excuses would have become irrelevant, making me shake my head, saying to myself, “How did I ever let that stop me?”
And just like that, with my imagination set free
internal resistance melting away
off I go
finally becoming who I’ve always wanted to be.
P.S: If you MUST ask the “Why do I always…” questions, at least use them to justify and perpetuate positive behavior.
Why do I always wake up and immediately write three pages stream of consciousness?
- Because it helps me slow down.
- Because it makes me aware of negative (and positive thought patterns).
- Because I feel calm after writing them.
- Because ever since I started, more creative, productive, and disciplined
- Because this is who I am now. And I love this version of me much more than the one from before I started writing every day.
P.P.S.: Alright then, one more question to think (or journal) about:
Where am I perpetuating a situation or habit I say I don’t want but I secretly cling to because it feels comfortable and has become part of my identity?
#202 Proving yourself right
ByLukasThe future I want to see affects the present I create.
And so does the future I don’t want to see.
Do I let fear of what could go wrong reign my day?
Or excitement about what could be?
Whatever I choose, I may well end up proving myself right.