#423 Win or lose, you get to choose

There is no such thing as “abstaining from voting” in life.

Whether I decide to write today or not, I’m living my life and voting for an identity.

Whether I decide to do yoga today or not, I’m living a life and voting for an identity.

Whether I eat healthily today or not, I’m living my life and voting for an identity.

Whether I spend time with my family or not, I’m living my life and voting for an identity.

Voting is compulsory. Voting is inevitable.

You might as well do it intentionally.

We all live in a maze of mistranslations and misunderstandings about who we think you are and who others think we are.

Now, by lack of a way to know who we truly are, misunderstandings can be comforting, my friend; there’s no doubt about that.

But when you get so lost in the maze that it causes suffering, it might be time to start mending the misunderstandings.

Could it be that mending is nothing more than making another mistranslation about who we are that makes us happier?

After all, I can perceive myself as a struggling writer or a skilled wordsmith – both perspectives hold their truths.

It’s the power of our misunderstandings that molds our reality.

Before you can master the art of writing, you must master the art of showing up.

Because this journey you’re embarking on isn’t just about writing.

It’s about creating a powerful, resilient identity that will support you for years to come.

A memory is what we decide to remember from an experience – and what we decide to delete and forget.

Intuition is the instant hunch we get after we’ve repeatedly created memories from experiences; the moment we don’t need the conscious memory anymore.

A small (or unrepresentative) sample size leads to inaccurate intuition.

If I’m betrayed three times in my life and have created strong memories around that, my intuition whenever meeting anyone else may be that they’ll betray me too. Three bad experiences have shaped, and skewed, my relationship to billions of others.

How to develop accurate intuition?

The more memories we create, the bigger the “sample size” for our intuition to emerge from, and the smaller the weight of “outlier events” (like being betrayed).

The more deliberately we create these memories, the more deliberately we hone intuition.

Create more memories. And create them deliberately.